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When I was 13 or so, I just knew that I would be making millions, married, and with two kids living in our huge house by the time I was 26. Yet, here I am 28, making decent money, single, with no kids or a huge house to my name.

While I’m seemingly content with that, society [internet culture included] says that I shouldn’t be. Society says that I need to be focused on actively finding a husband and preparing myself for children and married life. And while I want that to happen, I don’t necessarily want it to happen today.

So if that’s the case, why do I sometimes feel a sense of failure that I’m not living as society says? Why do I, at 28, feel like I’m running out of time to create this picture perfect life I’ve always imagined for myself? After some reflection, the answer is plain – I’ve spent too much time building my life on other people’s time.

Social media has an easy way of making us feel that we are always late to the party. Aside from marriage and kids, I experienced this when trying to accomplish one of my lifetime dreams. Since high school, my dream was to join a sorority in college. My vision included strolling on campus and getting to the clubs for free. My dream fell to pieces when I didn’t get accepted into the sorority. I knew that I could try again after I graduated, but where was the fun in that?

Literally heartbroken, my mom shared some of her mama quotes and reminded me that ‘What God has for you is for you when He’s ready for you to have it.” In that same conversation, my mother made me realize that the only reason I was super sad about this rejection was that society says that rushing during college is the pinnacle of one’s collegiate experience.

And she was right.

I was so caught up on sticking to this timeline and rushing before graduating, that I wasn’t appreciating the potential second chance I had. A few weeks ago, I got the second chance of reaching my dream when I became a member of that sorority. And guess what? I appreciated the process much more this go-round, then I probably would have in college! With this experience, I created my own timeline and didn’t give a damn about anyone’s opinion about it!

The older I get and the more of life I experience, the more I value the time I spend on creating the life I want. I’m thankful for this peace because for years I’ve lived life on a timeline that I didn’t create for myself which was causing me unnecessary stress in trying to achieve things that I wasn’t ready for!

I know you have goals and ambitions for yourself and there is nothing wrong with creating deadlines to accomplish those goals! My only hope is that you make sure to work towards and live out those goals and dreams on your own time and no one else’s. At the end of the day, when it’s time for you to have it, then you will get it. Stop letting outsiders define when that time for you is! The beauty in achieving your goals is that the journey is yours and no one can define or set that for you EXCEPT you!

xoxo,

Raee



3-WAYS-TO-SPICE-OLD-BLOG-POSTS

I never really understood the power of repurposing blog posts until I began struggling with new topics and my blog was at a standstill! I mean let’s face it… when the schedule gets busy and the ideas dry up, then what?

Over the past few months, I’ve learned not to create extra work for myself when it comes to blogging. When I’ve run out of ideas, I just repurposed what I already had, hit publish, and watched the numbers increase! Since this strategy has helped me, I’m going to help you by sharing 3 super easy tips to help you spice up your old blog posts and increase your site traffic!

1.) Change the Cover Photos

One of the easiest ways to update your old blog posts is to freshen up the cover photos. Times change, your audience changes, and so should your designs. My advice is when creating your cover photos, is to create up to three for your blog and up to four or five for your pinterest images. Here’s how I do my break down for a blog post:

  • Blog – create 2 cover photos
  • Pinterest – create 3-4 pin covers
  • Instagram – have 2 images in mind to post on different days [one is usually a selfie and the other is a random picture that may fit my theme]

2.) Change the Titles

Changing the titles of your blog posts are also important. You’d be surprised at how big of a role your title plays on your engagement. When I first started blogging, my titles were either too long or too specific that there wasn’t an incentive for clicking the post. Over the course of the past few months, I’ve learned how to play with my titles and make them work in my favor. Some tips on titles are:

  • Use numbers [3 reasons why… ; 5 lessons I learned; 30 blog titles for…]
  • Use Hashtag Words [#CoffeeTalk, #Style Guide]
  • Create ‘Reasons Why’ Posts [4 Reasons Why… ; Here’s Why You Need…]

3.) Change Parts of the Post

Sometimes the content of our posts needs to be freshened up too, especially if other blog posts related to the topic have been created! One thing to do with old posts, is to add new information or lessons, and to link newer posts to the old posts and old posts to newer posts. I love linking my old post to my new posts because I knock two birds out with one stone!

Hopefully you found these three quick tips helpful and useful! If you have any tips of your own to share, drop them below so we all can see!!

Talk to ya’ll soon!

xoxo,

Raee

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It’s almost Mother’s Day!!! Now I don’t know about your mother, but my mother is almost impossible to shop for because she’s so picky about EV-ER-EE-THING!!!

Lol. Every year she only asks for pajamas! She has a serious pajama obsession! So in addition to PJ’s, I’m going to get her something else! Just like me, I’m making sure I treat her without breaking my bank, so I’ve compiled this list of goodies to buy mom that are all UNDER a $100!!

Handwritten Bracelet / Initial Pendant / Stud Earrings / Parfum Spray / French Press / Burlap Print Picture / Printed Sunglasses / Portable CoffeeMaker / Fruit Flavored Sugars / Anything Finder / Airpods Case / Planner / Bluetooth Speaker / Facial Roller / Chrissy Tiegen Pots and Pans

Make sure to get mom something nice! I’ll talk to ya’ll later!

xoxo,

Raee

6-podcasts-to-listen-to

1.) The Read

Kid Fury and Crissle have cultivated a cult following of ‘Readers’ with this podcast that celebrates the LGBTQ+ community, black girl magic, and black boy joy! Kid Fury’s brutal honesty and Crissle’s infectious laugh will give your weekly dose of hot tops [hot topics], listener letters [which will have your jaw on the floor], and a readddddd that will snatch your edges honey!

Must Listens:

  • You Won’t Stop Our Blackness
  • Circle of Bey
  • Trapped in the Clap

2.) The Friend Zone

Dustin, Assante, and Fran are the perfect trio in this weekly podcast. Every week, they explore mental health, mental wealth, and mental hygiene, with a dash of tomfoolery to keep you encouraged, inspired, and renewed!

Must Listens:

  • Energy Forecast
  • A Well – Oiled Machine
  • Leap of Faith – Ft. The Read

3.) The Mattie James Show

I came across Mattie James randomly on my Instagram explore page sometime last year, and have been in love with her ever since. A full-time blogger, she makes balancing motherhood, blogging, and slaying on Instagram seem like a breeze! Not only that, her podcast is full of gems for the working millennial woman.

Must Listens:

  • The Mindset Necessary to Successfully Promote Your Blog or Business
  • 3 Things You Need to Be an Influencer
  • The One Thing I Did to Increase My Productivity

4.) Superwoman with Rebecca Minkoff

I enjoy Rebecca Miknoff’s handbags, but I enjoy her podcast much more! Each week she brings in new women of different races, walks of life, and career path, to share their lessons and tips on how to become a ‘Superwoman!’

Must Listens:

  • Breaking Financial Barriers
  • Planning Your Way to Success
  • Using Your Passions to Fuel Your Success

5.) Myleik Teele’s Podcast

curlBOX founder and creator Myleik Teele started her podcast to share her tips and insights of life, entrepenuriship, and now motherhood. What I love about Myleik is how raw she is and her willingness to completely open up and be transparent about her journey to get where she is now! If you need that morning drag that will shock and inspire you at the same time, then this podcast is for you!

Must Listens:

  • Kahlana Barfield: Stick With Your Plan A
  • Staying In Your Lane
  • You Must Pursue Your Dreams With Reckless Abandon: A Talk w/ Datwon Thomas

6.) Switch, Pivot, or Quit

Ahyiana Angel is a true delight in this podcast. Each week, she sits down with a young, professional woman, and shares their tips providing clarity and encouragement for women seeking more in their professional lives. I’ve gotten sooo many gems that have actually changed the way I view certain things in my life from the life lessons dropped in this podcast! It’s definitely worth the listen!

Must Listens:

  • I Don’t Celebrate Entrepreneurship
  • Don’t Give Power to Doubt
  • 5 Tips to Quit Playing Small

Hope you give these podcasts a listen and add them to your subscription list! If you listen to some podcasts that you think are must listens, drop it below!!!

Talk to ya’ll soon!

xoxo,
Raee

march-recap-april-goals

I did horrible with my March goals, BUT that’s okay, because April is a new month! LOL.

March was a good month for me blogging wise. My page views increased by about 250 views from last month, so I’m super happy about that. This month, my focus was career readiness and I think they were very beneficial to my readers. You can check out a few of my popular posts this month below:

  • Landing Your Dream Internship – Part 1 —->>> here
  • Landing Your Dream Internship – Part 2 —->>> here

April Goals:

  • Get 1000 page views- I just hit 700 so I’m almost there!
  • Guest post on another blog.
  • Create more fashion/beauty content
  • Lose 10 pounds overall
  • Pay off one upcoming vacation!

This month, I’m refocusing my goals and am hoping to achieve them in a slow and steady way, if that makes sense. Blogging wise, my focus has been on turning it into a profitable blog, but I really don’t think I’m there yet. So going forward, my focus is going to just be creating good, quality content.

I’m excited about keeping you guys updated this month! I’ll talk to ya’ll later!

xoxo,

Raee

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