This past weekend I was able to do something I haven’t done in a long while! I caught up with some old friends which provided me with a much needed mental and emotional break that I didn’t even know I needed. I have a group of friends that I pretty much spend most of my time with and because of that, I’ve put my other friendships on the back burner. Now don’t get me wrong, I appreciate my #squad, but when other friends started hitting me up voicing their frustration that I’m “never around anymore” or that I’ve “forgotten about them” or even worse…getting called “stranger” from my best friend, I knew I had to get it together and break away.
Thursday night I had dinner with my best friend and we were able to
turn catch up something serious! Even saying that sounds crazy to me because I’m one of those people that strongly believes one shouldn’t go longer than two or three days without talking to their bestie!! Meanwhile, I hadn’t talked to my best friend in over three months!! Over the course of our conversation I shared some things with her that I had been holding in and needed her guidance in helping me make certain decisions. She reminded me that inner peace is the most important peace to have and if something in my life isn’t right, then it needs to be eliminated-regardless of how much it may hurt. Something that although I already knew, I still needed to hear.
On Friday, I grabbed lunch with another friend and our margarita -filled chat was filled with open and deep conversations about careers, relationships, our faith and our future – a conversation that was severely lacking in my other friendship. I left our lunch feeling so energized, positive and more importantly truly happy! I honestly felt better after catching up with them!
Meeting with my friends this weekend left me nourished and empowered. Things that had me feeling uncertain prior were now a bit more clearer, I wasn’t weighed down by my own burdens anymore and I was genuinely excited to spend time around good people. I was able to get different opinions from people I trusted which put me in a different mindset regarding certain things. Restoring my friendships is very important to me right now especially with me being in the current space that I am in, in my life. I don’t have time to hold onto negative energy or people, which leaves me with an empty space that is craving to be filled with positivity.
I think it’s important for friends to match your fly. If y’all aren’t on the same page, level or you aren’t getting what you need from the friendship, then it may be time to move around. The next time you are feeling bogged down, stagnant in a friendship or you’ve been a bit M.I.A. a little bit too long in other friendships, reach out to those from your past! Spark up a much needed conversation and let the laughs go from there! You’ll be surprised at how much of a revelation and pick me up the encounter will be in your life going forward!