A dream cometh through the multitude of business – Ecclesiastes 5:3
“Dreams are lovely. But they are just dreams. Fleeting, ephemeral. Pretty. But dreams do not come true just because you dream them. It’s hard work that makes things happen. It’s hard work that creates change.” [Say Yes, Shonda Rhimes]
We all have dreams and goals and aspirations. When I was younger my dream was to be a singer then an actress then a fashion designer. As I got older, my dream was to be a lawyer then an accountant then a radio DJ. I was always on the extreme side of the dream spectrum. One day I wanted to be Beyonce [I mean who doesn’t?] then the next I wanted to be Oprah, then LaLa Anthony, then the next black Vera Wang, then Mindy Kaling and so on and so forth. I always wanted to be something or somebody but I never became that something or somebody because I was always dreaming -and of course lazy.
Now I don’t mean lazy as in “I’m not about to get up from the couch all day” or “I’ve been at home all day and I still have on my sleep cap.” I mean lazy as in “I know what I want to do, I know what I need to do to get there, but nah not today” and that happened everyday. Then when I saw other people around me seeing success, I would feel a type of way knowing I should’ve been where they were but wasn’t!
It’s sad to say but it wasn’t until I read Say Yes from the brilliant mind of Shonda Rhimes [if you don’t know about her…check ABC’s TV lineup on Thursday nights] that I realized why I never became any of these things. The reason I never became a singer or TV writer or lawyer is because I didn’t work for it!
[Side Note: In college I did study [for three weeks] and take the LSAT but I didn’t put enough energy and practice into it, scored low, didn’t get into any school and ultimately put that ‘dream’ in the back of my abyss never to be brought up again!]
The only way you can become something is if you work toward it right? Dream? Oh you can dream all day long until the cows come home. But dreaming is just that…a dream. The only way to make a dream become reality is through honest to God hitting the pavement-possibly staying up all night-hours on end perfecting your craft- hard work. Dassit! There is no secret formula. How do you think Beyoncé got where she is today? Honest to God hard work. Oprah? Diddy? Same.
After coming to this realization, I can’t help but wonder where I’d be if I’d actually worked towards my dreams instead of always dreaming them. Would I be that singer selling out crowds? Selling out box offices? Shutting it down on the runway or in the courtroom? I’m not sure. But I am sure that going forward, I will no longer dream. I will no longer consider myself a dreamer. It was my ‘dream’ to create a blog. Check. It was my dream to be consistent at it. Check – although it’s still a constant battle.
It was my dream for my blog to not only be successful but spark conversation among women and make change. Scratch that. Why? Because again…I’m no longer a dreamer. I’m a worker. I will work until everything that I’m dreaming of has materialized and has come to fruition. It’s no longer enough to just have a ‘dream’ and a ‘vision.’ As the old saying goes, ‘dreams don’t work unless you do,‘ and I’m finding that out to be true!
So what about you? Are you a worker? Or a dreamer?